FAQs
What can I expect from a booking?
That’s entirely up to your behavior and our overall dynamic. I will never guarantee or promise anything from our time together, explicit or otherwise. When planning domination sessions, it’s important for me to know your interests, expectations from a booking, and your motivations for the aforementioned, but please allow room for what is realistic in a provided time frame, and prioritizing sustainable choices over haphazard ideas.
I enjoy bookings that go at a gentle, natural pace, and where I’m the one leading the tone— let me conduct the entertainment, you’re here to enjoy the show. Previous bookings have spoken highly of my hospitality and relaxed nature. I find the enclave between playful and mischievous to be my sweet spot.
For incall bookings, you will be greeted, asked to take your shoes and coat off, & offered tea or coffee. Please do not bring alcohol to incall unless discussed prior. In the bathroom you will find a towel set designated for you, as well as a small selection of soaps and toiletry products. You are welcome to try my brown sugar body spray, go ahead & live a little. After you shower with one of the offered soap options, our time together will be matched with the energy you bring to it. I want us to both feel safe, have fun, experiment with intimacy, and stay curious and playful with each other.
After I arrive to an outcall, I’ll take my shoes and jacket off at the door. I will respectfully decline any beverages that I do not unseal myself. I will ask to use your restroom to freshen up and then our time together will follow as above.
I do not party and respectfully decline all invitations. I am Narcan + CPR trained and carry Narcan with me but, as with such things, it’s a skill I don’t want to have to use. I will exit gracefully if at any point I believe you are too inebriated to spend time together
What do you mean by “Patrons Only”? How do I become a patron?
My patrons have special privileges in my world. My patrons are those I’ve built relationships with and have established trust over time, with the mutual understanding of reliability with each other. Patrons have preferential booking, same-day availability, private calendar access, and designated time throughout the month. Rates are bespoke and individual to each patron, however, my services to patrons do not extend beyond my already designated limits and safety boundaries.
You are welcome to ask me about becoming a designated patron after we have spent at least 18 booking hours together.
May 2026 - I am not currently accepting new patrons.
What is your corset lacing size?
Depending on how my body is feelings and any other activities that day, I’m typically laced 17”-19” (reduced from 24”) at most bookings. I have a small collection of corsets, both underbust and overbust, and can accommodate styling requests within reason.
Why do you have a cane/walking stick? Can I request you leave it at home? Can I request you use it as part of our booking?
I need my cane to balance while I walk and am unable to leave home without it. I am not frail, and lift weights regularly, however this is still a necessity for me to move with ease. I will never use my personal mobility aid for impact play, do not ask, we have other toys for that.
My cane is probably the least interesting thing about me, but if you find it gives you pause, you will be more comfortable with another provider.
Where should I send tribute, tips, or cash gifts?
You can tip and tribute for my writing, music, atmosphere, or to show adoration. Tips are accepted via Stripe, or on CashApp (tip note: “music”) [$]lavandes.
Where can I find your reviews?
My profile for The Erotic Review is linked in the banner at the footer of this website. You can additionally look me up by ID number. I don’t have any other authorized review profiles.
TER ID: 411234
EM ID: 1100395
Will your outfit call attention to us in public or to my outcall location?
I’m a lifelong goth and dress accordingly. You will always see me wearing mostly black, with some other darker colors, or florals occasionally. When arriving to an outcall location for a private booking, I am discreet with my outfit choices, and choose more casual outerwear to keep your focus on what I’m wearing for our session.
For longer introductory bookings meetings starting at a shared third location, I will be dressed gracefully for the tone of our evening, with an emphasis placed on revealing more throughout our night. Please give adequate time to communicate any dress code or to provide specific clothing allowance needs.
If your session includes specific costuming needs, or for certain formal events, you will be asked to provide a clothing stipend.
Can I book you for vanilla companionship?
As of June 2026, I am still accepting new booking requests for vanilla companionship, but I won’t keep my books open for much longer. Previous bookings are welcome to reconnect, with less of an emphasis on closing time windows— as always, no rush. Thank you for your understanding!
Review my Experiences page to see how I’m choosing to focus my time going forwards.
