how I lead our dance

My goal as a dominant is to facilitate the connection between you and your shadow self.

Everything in life that requires us to use strength demands the proper training, or we risk harming ourselves with improper care. Intentionally tending to the shadow self gives us time and opportunity to train our strength so we are prepared to use it effectively when the time is right to break our loops. Like a sore spot in your hips, the shame we hold from ignoring our shadows can be manipulated. When mishandled or collided with unexpectedly, it can cause agony and aggravate any injury. When tended to with intent— gentle pressure, an ache that turns into release— we learn to understand our own movement.

Essential to being honest with one’s self is detaching from the idea of who you want to be. Not to create a misunderstanding— there is a difference between having outlined goals for yourself and your path, versus the attachment to an idea of what you could/should/would be. This idea of our should-be self so often is rooted in our shame: the things others say that we internalize, our resentments from our upbringings, the invisible rules we follow and judge others for not following, as if they must also carry our burdens and behave as such. The idealized should-be self is not grounded in reality: the concrete in front of us, the things we are capable of now, and what we can reliably build on.

Make sure to read the “Archetype” tab on my about page so you know what you’re getting into first, and you can find more of my philosophy towards my work on my Library page. I believe in building pressure over time, and concern myself most with building and maintaining long term connections. My work is largely tactile and visual sensory based. and I rely on bodywork technique both in scene, when appropriate, as well as extensively in aftercare. Before starting our time together, I will ask about any medical conditions or injuries I should be aware of. Please be honest with me so I can ensure your scene meets your needs, as well as meets my safety standards.

Those devoted me are eligible to become one of my designated Patrons after spending at least 30 booking hours together. Please see my FAQ page for further information on being a patron.

Please review my policies thoroughly before booking. For ideas of social activities or thoughtful gestures, as well as my list of organizations and community projects worth your support, you can review my interests page.

types of enchantments

Monitoring Spirit - online only

Digital manipulation and control is a role playing spectrum we can experiment with— From the gentle coercion of a girlfriend who seems to have memorized when you take your work breaks so she knows you’re able to text back already, to the new lurker on your instagram stories you’re not entirely certain isn’t belonging to the owner of an account you’ve already blocked.

Novice Shadow Introduction - for all booking times

For new submissives, or those curious about experiencing a different niche, this is where we test the waters first before jumping in. After getting settled and acquainted, as well as going over necessary precautions, our time together will be paced to give your experience plenty of time to build up, as well as come back to earth. Our length of time spent in active play may be less than time spent in rising and falling action, as this is a gentler approach focused on your somatic and sensory experiences in play.

Shadow Expression - for all booking times

For the niche-familiar submissives, or those who are already in acquaintance with their shadow through other self-care methods. Working within what you already know about yourself and your shadow, we will experiment with the nuance of what joy looks like in kink play.

Deep Dive - for bookings 6H or longer

For those who have a solid foundation, but want to break any plateaus or go deeper into still uncovered regions. Similar to Novice Shadow and Shadow Expression experiences, your somatic experience in our play is prioritized. I expect you to come to this booking prepared with an intention for your shadow work during our booking.

Genuine Ritual - for bookings 4H or longer; incall or travel only

For those interested in genuine magic practice— not what’s in fantasy stories, but as part of older traditions— you may have heard of charging intentional casting work with erotic energy. Similar to the Deep Dive, our play is still focused on the present moment, but a concrete goal for our spell work is required. My personal scope is derived from Sicilian and Italian-American folk, French-Canadian folk, and Roman polytheistic practices. I will provide all components for spell work, as I forage or grow the majority of my components. You will not be asked to ingest any spell components, or any other substance, for our ritual. Asthma & allergen-safe experiences are available. Please see my library post for what this can entail.

Immersion - 12H bookings or longer

This is the deep dive that you don’t resurface from in the same place you started from. Intense, but gentle, guiding pressure.

All experiences as listed are intended as entertainment service only and are not substitutes for medical or legal advice. You are responsible for making me aware of any potential contact allergens.