Scroll to bottom for touring schedule & booking opportunities for May.

Truthfully, despite my best intentions at the start of this month, I haven’t gotten a chance to settle down much before I (momentarily!) pick up again.

If you follow my stories on Instagram, you know I’m about to head out of the city for a few weeks for tour and travel plans before revisiting intentions in Chicago. Some unexpected changes in my daytime life some months ago yield me new opportunities for growth and expansion— or that’s what I repeat to myself in moments of stress or overwhelm. 

I’m reminded— again, and yet again— that growth is a spiral, and we keep returning to the same angular points over until we learn to release ourselves from our patterns. Still, I’ve found there to be habitually long periods between the point of recognizing where there is an issue within the pattern, and when there’s the moment for sustainable release. Sometimes, after we’re already sure we want to leave a track, we still want to finish one last loop to make sure we’re really truly ready. The trick is to trust yourself well to know you’re strong enough to break the loop. 

It’s too easy to blame our shadows for our loops— I had this experience in my past, so I can’t change now. Too often, feeling vulnerable and hungry for control, we turn our shadow’s messages into personal shame. It takes practice to instead hear what’s being communicated. 

Our shadows don’t keep us in loop, they tell us where we need to build our strength in order to break free. Everything in life that requires us to use strength demands the proper training, or we risk harming ourselves with improper care. Intentionally tending to the shadow self gives us time and opportunity to train our strength so we are prepared to use it effectively when the time is right to break our loops. Like a sore spot in your hips, the shame we hold from ignoring our shadows can be manipulated. When mishandled or collided with unexpectedly, it can cause agony and aggravate any injury. When tended to with intent— gentle pressure, an ache that turns into release— we learn to understand our own movement.

Not everyone is gifted with the space for movement, however, so sometimes we have to find a way to claim our own. When we need to tend to especially vulnerable parts of ourselves, there’s limited space. Kink that falls into grey areas of holistic care— how do you explain the euphoria in being crushed to someone incapable of finding themself in the circumstance?— certainly will carve space for you, but what you learn about yourself, and the strength you build, is ultimately your responsibility to hold. 

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May:
Memphis, Tennessee 05/01-05/02
New Orleans, Louisiana 05/03-05/04
Omaha, Nebraska 05/10-05/11
Patrons only - 05/12-05/23
Chicago - 05/24-05/31

Please direct all inquiries to my booking page. I’ll see you when the time is right.

- Eve